As soon as the most recent generation change was published I was out, mentally...I knew that their doctrine was running out of time and I was waiting for their explanation..When it came, I knew they were fakes. I started researching, contemplated fading, couldn't stomach it, so instead,told my children, let the elders know, gave up all my studies and said goodbye( with the wonderful support and advice from this forum) In all,I was out and disassociated in about 6 months.
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How Long Were You Mentally Out Of The "Truth" Before You Left?
by minimus ini was totally spiritually and mentally out of it at least 2 years before i resigned as an elder.
it was actually a long process but i can say it is a complete one.
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How did you feel the 1st time you visited this or other "apostate" site?
by Newborn ini thought jehobar would struck me dead with a lightning right on the spot.
seriously, i was so scared.
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I felt confused as to why I had not looked before. I realized that I had been played by the organization and decided that I would never allow anyone/or organization to manipulate me like that again. I became totally obsessed with the forums(my eyes were sore from staring at the screen!) and ordered many books to fill me in on just how much I had been lied to. I also felt relief, as the JW life style was a never ending burden, and so many things were not adding up recently, and now I had found out why... It was all a sham.
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What Are Your New Year's Resolutions?
by minimus inmine is to better organize my stuff and throw sh*t away.
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Last JW contact.
by strawberry cake injust received a phone call from a jw friend(unbaptised publisher).
we had previously planned for her son aged 7 to come and spend the day with mine.
when she phoned she said, 'he can't come, as he talks too much' he has obviously told someone that he is coming to see us on saturday.
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Thank you all for the support. You have all been there for me.
It's so good to be able vent. It is a loss, as we have built up a good friendship, over many years. There is absolutely nothing I can do to change the situation, so I just have to let them go... and like Penny said..not subject myself to the idiocy of it all.
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Last JW contact.
by strawberry cake injust received a phone call from a jw friend(unbaptised publisher).
we had previously planned for her son aged 7 to come and spend the day with mine.
when she phoned she said, 'he can't come, as he talks too much' he has obviously told someone that he is coming to see us on saturday.
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Just received a phone call from a JW friend(unbaptised publisher). We had previously planned for her son aged 7 to come and spend the day with mine. When she phoned she said, 'he can't come, as he talks too much' He has obviously told someone that he is coming to see us on Saturday.
You see before I was disassociated, I was her study conductor and 'aunty' to her little boy, and he's known me all his life and spent a lot of time at my home, and on days out with our family. So he has been pleading with his mum to come and see us.
Interestingly, when an elder visited recently,(after bumping into me leaving her home) he told my friend that she shouldn't have any contact with me. Her son overheard and said 'why not? sister J is nice lady!' When she told me this, I laughed.( out of the mouth of babes!) At first my friend was very upset with this elders orders and refused to go to meetings for about a month. Now, however, she is back and I think due to her eldest son becoming a unbaptised publisher recently.
So sadly, she has succumbed to the pressure. She was very sad about it all, so I told her not to worry and I understand her dilemma. She is totally baffled by all that has happened.
So that's that. She says she can't shun me because she has no reason to, but the WT has enforced it on her anyway, because she is in their world and has to function within it.
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Mama ... are you happy with my life?
by compound complex ina moment of reflection upon what many of us have lost ... .
forever...?.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwavmp6tpha.
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Do You Like Teenagers?
by snowbird ini mean really like them?.
4 of my 6 g'kids are now teenagers.
i can't stand them.. an old lady once told me that you've got to hate them (teenagers) before you can really love them.. i think she was on to something.. sylvia.
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I have 2 who have reached teens and they are so different...so yes and no.(p.s.. I love them both unconditionally)
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Your past friends and associates in the truth - where are they now?
by truthseeker init'd be interesting to see what's happened to friends, associates and kingdom hall buddies since leaving the organisation.. .
a friend - someone you have a personal friendship with.
an associate - someone you hang out with in groups but have no personal relationship with.
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A work colleague gave me this poem to read, when she realized how hurt I was about an ex JW 'friend' shunning me at work.
It really stopped me pining, not for the organization of course, but for the relationships I had formed over the years.
"There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters,who won't anymore,and who always will. So ,don't worry about people from your past,there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future"
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Hi, I'm new
by Diva inhi, this is my first post but ive been lurking around this discussion board for some time now.
my husband (the borg) occasionally posts and i had the pleasure of meeting some great people at the apostofest in covent garden, london last year arranged by bestie and sweetpea , hi to you both and hi to freetothink, mr majestic and everyone that was there hope youre all ok.. my story in a nutshell: raised a jw from birth, my whole family, expect one brother and sister (disfellowshipped) are still jws - basically i was raised in a family who were considered one of the pillars of the congregation, we all pioneered and did the whole witness thing, in fact one of my sisters is a missionary.
my whole jw world crumbled when i learnt about the jw/un connection and from that moment on there was no turning back.
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Open Letter to Jehovah's Witnesses
by Trying2understand ini found this on another website and thought that i would pass it along.. tryingtounderstand.
hi friends, .
i did not write this letter.
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Thank-you
I read this before and was looking for it, as it sums up all that I feel about how I, and others were betrayed.
The Elders told my 2 older sons that my husband and I are Apostates. Thank goodness that it didn't work. The younger son now misses loads of meetings and now has a 'worldly' girlfriend, and my eldest has not answered up at the meetings for nearly a year, and has also started missing meetings and going out with old school friends( non witnesses) The eldest, totally understands my decision to leave , but is trying to hold on to his witness friends. I told him recently that he is trapped.. He agreed with a shrug. We are relieved that the Watch Tower has not got a complete hold on them, and are hopeful for the future.
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